I'm Mrs. She's too Big, Now She's Too Thin

I’ve been under a lot of scrutiny over the last little while about my body and I’m not really sure where I fit within the plus size community anymore. I’ve had a number of people tell me that I’m too small to be considered plus size. I’ve also had a number of people (usually men) tell me that I am too fat or unattractive to wear some of the things I do. Last weekend my own mother even told me that I was too fat to wear a bodycon skirt.. 

The fact is I am a size 18 (on a good day) or lately, a size 20. This is definitely considered to be plus size. I have abnormal proportions that makes my size vary depending on clothing type or style. I have extremely broad shoulders and large breasts (think 44DD) that limit what I am able to wear significantly. I know a number of plus size women (some with larger midsections) who are able to fit into a size L or XL shirt, but 9 times out of 10 I cannot fit into the same shirt. I don’t have the world’s largest tummy, I mean I definitely have a bit of pudge, but my stomach isn’t my largest body shape feature. I have long, toned legs and not much of a butt at all so jeans are awful to find. Pants always end up fitting just right in the stomach and super baggy in the butt and knees especially, or super tight (uncomfortably) in the stomach and perfect everywhere else. 

I am shaped like an inverse triangle which can be so frustrating when trying to buy clothes (especially button-up shirts and worst of all, blazers!). It’s extremely hard to find plus size clothing that flatters this body shape because plus size tops/jackets that fit me in the shoulders/chest are huge in the arms and midsection area.

Anyway, just thought I would share this with you all! Has anyone else had any similar feelings lately? Which body type are you guys? 
Erica xoxo