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Plus Size Street Style: Best Friend Magic

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Hi Everyone! It's a holiday in Canada (Family Day) and the US I believe (President's Day) so I am trying to relax and be productive at the same time. For me, writing (when I actually want to) is therapeutic. I am also highly motivated by stress and deadlines, so receiving these photos late last night only really pushed me further. Unfortunately, I've had some urgent personal stuff come up today, hence the delay.  I had spent many years minimizing my obsession with the occult, keeping it under wraps for fear that my safe haven would become the thing that ostracizes me. I'm a Scorpio though, so my interest in the unknown, morbid and occult runs through my veins. However, I've never had the affinity for Horror movies. One of my exes was obsessed -- looking back on it now, I'm not surprised, recognizing that he's also a Scorpio. To each their own in the land of the occult. You can be interested in one, two, five or an infinite areas. I personally connect with …

Happy Galentine's Day!

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Galentine's Day has evolved from sitcom holiday to become a part of important movements, like #MeToo. For the first time in a long time, it seems that women have a voice again. It seems that popular proverb is right, there is strength in numbers. Togetherness can minimize fears of rejection and ostracization and empower women to courageously share their stories. Statistics show that if we don't have the numbers in our favour "backing up our claims", women are rarely able to gain the attention of our justice system. I believe survivors, but it seems that the media is scrambling to catch up. Women in "Show Business" and politics may feel empowered to come forward with allegations of sexual misconduct, but what about the rest of us? Those who don't have the financial or emotional resources to come forward? We can't stop, we won't stop! I also want to take this moment to acknowledge and make my stance known on the following: TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN a…

Fat, Disabled and Thriving: Plus Size Activewear

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I must admit, I have shied away from fashion posts for the past few months. At the time, I felt that I had a lot more to say about heavier/more serious topics, that wouldn't compliment fashion posts well. However, here we are... a time where I can bring fashion into the importance of discussing the politics of, and my personal experience with plus-size fitness. Note: I certainly will have more to say than this post will call for, and intend to delve a bit deeper in an upcoming post. 

CW: Weight Loss, Surgery Mention, Working Out

So, what have I been doing the past few months you ask? I've been in the gym. If you are a frequent visitor on my Instagram page, you may have seen many many of my exercise IG stories. It helps keep me accountable! Recovery, exercise and strengthening have literally become my job since March 20th (the day I moved into inpatient physical rehabilitation). I don't have a lot of structure in my life right now, but the gym has become a constant task on …

Violence against women in our communities & how it feels to be a statistic: A poetic memoir

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I am inspired and motivated to speak up and share my truth, more than ever. The camaraderie and solidarity seen at the Golden Globes & Oprah's monumental speech have lit the fire within. Violence against women (especially women of colour) is not just a Hollywood phenomenon. It has been occurring in regular communities, to people without influence and financial freedom FOR LITERALLY EVER. This is written as a poetic memoir. I have minimized details and triggers as much as possible, without losing the integrity of my story. Yet, here are your content warnings. 
CW: mention of sexual assault, violence against women, death, trauma, unfair justice system
I look in the mirror and see someone; I don’t know her well. She appears kind and gentle underneath her chainmail exterior. I want to get to know her better. I’d like to hear her story, feel her feelings, and commemorate her strength. Sensitization hour, after years of repression. She seeks a purification from the toxins and chains …

Finalizing 2017 & Setting Intentions for 2018: New Year's Eve Reflection

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Before I begin, I just wanted to thank you for your patience with this post! I had intended on publishing this on Friday BUT my computer decided that it would begin sparking & did not stop until last evening. However, I have fixed the problem and I'm ready to get vulnerable with you! P.S. This post is super text-heavy (you've been warned)! 
2017 has been the most difficult year of my life, thus far. After having two surgeries (one major and one minor), I was left with a lot of time to reflect. By no means was the year what I expected or intended for it to be. I spent a lot of time in hospitals and in bed this year -- far more than I ever could have imagined I would. On March 8th of this year, my world came to a jolting halt. Everything was about to change. I was inches and hours away from permanent paralysis; but something wonderful stopped this from happening. It was a miracle, a second chance and a blessing in disguise, all at once. Only then, was I able to realize that…